Here comes 40
Well, it has arrived. The month I’ll turn 40. I’ve been watching it happen to a lot of my friends over the past few years and now my time has arrived. Fortunately, I’m feeling ready. I’ve spent the last several years focused on personal growth and I think it’s prepared me for this moment perfectly. While for the most part I never spent time in my younger days thinking about what my life would be like when I’m 40, I’m planning to be wildly intentional to make sure my next decade takes me exactly where I want to be. Laying out my goals and I appreciate your support in holding me accountable for them.
Putting myself first
As a mother, this can be really tough. However, I’ve learned the very hard way over the last decade especially, if I don’t put myself first it’s impossible to be my best for my family and community. I’ve started taking time in the mornings to work out. I put up boundaries at my office for when I am not available for meetings and stick to them. Running a business is very draining, emotionally and mentally. It took me a very long time (read: way too long) to figure out part of the business’s success, was my success in keeping myself healthy. So many years were spent with the company running me, rather than me running the company. I let people around me as well as clients, drain me. After all that I wouldn’t have the energy to be fully present for my family. Now I know putting myself first also means I’m putting my family as a top priority. I will work to continue to be more aware of what suits me and what doesn’t. What my physical body needs and what keeps me at my peak mental health. I will always make time to exercise and nourish my body with healthy foods.
2. taking chances
Failing fast is something I’ve learned to do during my time leading at Happy Medium. We are only better because we aren’t afraid of failing. I haven’t been as good at this in my personal life, but 40 is bringing an entirely new perspective. It’s time to start trying everything I’ve wanted to or will want to so there are no regrets. It’s important to me my sons see me being brave and know they can be too.
3. Working to retire at 50
Speaking of being brave, I’ve had this goal moving through me for so many days and nights. This goal isn’t probably intended to be as literal as it sounds. Having the ability to retire at 50 is more of what I’m working towards. Because honestly, I love working and fully intend to keep bothering the people at Happy Medium for quite some time. In the meantime though, I’ve started working on building multiple streams of revenue so I can achieve this. I’m going to start talking more about the projects I’ve been working on and the goals I’m setting to achieve this.
4. Travel nonstop
Really done a lot of good work towards this goal already in 2022. I’m here to keep it going though. I want to continue to feel inspired and fulfilled. Travel fills my bucket. The world is so big, traveling reminds me of this and I never want to stop taking it all in.
5. being authentic
Last and certainly not least, I will continue to work on being more authentic. Externally as well as with myself. In the last 11 years especially I spent way too much time working to be the “supposed to” person. What a CEO is supposed to be, look like and do. Then what a female CEO is supposed to be, look like and do. Then I spent time trying to be what I thought my partner would want, this perfect human all put together and handling everything internally. That relationship still didn’t work and all I got out of it was the anxiety that comes with feeling so lonely in your own space. I will show up as only me, who I am and I will hold strong to my values. I’ll surround myself with the people that make me feel safe being my authentic self, and push me to always be growing. I know this will bring some people closer and could push others away. I’ve learned now that’s exactly how it’s supposed to be and I wish I would have been ok with that long ago.
